Red-pill knowledge* can be– is meant to be– very disillusioning. But it can also be empowering, and even a force for good in the world.
I’ve recently observed (not in person) an until-this-girl-who’s-The-One-virgin Christian friend getting balls-deep in a girl who:
- has +3 years on him
- Late late 20s
- Has a hard quant degree and job experience to his human resources interests
- Went to an elite school to his good, but not elite, school
- Was a virgin– a long time ago, so more ‘experienced.’ Also ostensibly Christian.
- Made him wait for months before putting out
Observations: They’re both at the same grad school program. He touches her in public; she doesn’t touch him. She’s not too happy when they’re out with friends and he offers various PDA. Hanging on her, almost. Haven’t seen any spontaneous acts of goodwill from her to him. He’s passing up jobs and job offers for her location preferences. She wants a big ring and wedding, and he’s stressing about the ring.
Now, without having seen the behind-the-scenes of the relationship, I offer the following analysis:
Red flags all over. He’s making a terrible mistake because he’s gotten his dick wet and that’s all that he can see. He will be in a sexless marriage following the last time she has sex to conceive the number of kids she wants. She wants to lock down a ring for her own personal / social reasons, and does not love him, but may stick through the dating charade for the marriage. She has no particular reason to look up to him for his social or professional status. He will eventually rise in sexual-market value but will have fewer options because he’s tied up in a marriage, although he’ll continue to see the foregone possibilities prancing around him in short skirts and pretend they don’t affect him. She will become unhappy and because she has settled for a man who she perceives as having less value and make his life miserable, possibly by becoming fat and sullen. He will think it’s how it’s supposed to be, put on a brave face in public, and trudge along through life until she kicks up the Christian divorce theft or cheats.
Now, I could be wrong. Maybe they have an idyllic relationship and are destined for great things, even overcoming the vicissitudes of life. But more realistically, and perhaps I’m a bit of a jaded cynic, but I’d give 80% that he will be miserable. So I’m on call for a save-the-brother style intervention when he buys a ring, if it doesn’t break before then.
I’ll give him my thoughts ahead of church-time and let him decide. He deserves that. Doesn’t matter if I burn the bridge if I napalm it with the facts. Sometimes, you have to burn the relationship to save it, and besides, I’ll sleep in good conscience.
*See the links on the side